- If my neighbor hadn't ignored me like that back then, I'd probably be a little bit more friendly now.
- If it wasn't so cold and windy every single day, the yard work would probably be done by now.
- If you hadn't talked to me in that tone, I'd probably be more willing to listen to you right now.
- If people were paying more attention to their driving, I probably wouldn't have had to cut you off.
- My dad always yelled about everything; that's why it's really hard for me not to do the same thing.
- My dad always yelled about everything; that's why I refuse to react in the same way now.
- My brothers always treated me with such indifference; that's why I'm always struggling with low self-esteem.
- My brothers always treated me with such indifference; that's why I refuse to let our boys do that to her now.
Please don't misunderstand me. I am not saying that none of these things ever cross my own mind. But what about those individuals who truly believe these are all genuinely good reasons for behaving the way they do in certain situations. My oh my...whose fault is it, anyway?
- I wouldn't have to switch companies all the time, [if] someone just believed in good customer service.
- I would probably get up earlier on the weekends, [if] I just had something more to get up to.
- I would probably be more willing to get involved, [if] it didn't always feel like they're just using me.
- I know I wouldn't be so sensitive about this, [if] people just treated me with a little more respect and consideration.
“You are where you are and what you are because of yourself, because of your own choices and decisions.” ~Brian Tracy, Author and Motivational Speaker
"We are what we are because of our believing, not other people's believing...We will sink to the depths or rise to the heights of our believing." ~Life Lines, Quotations of Victor Paul Wierwille
This gives me a strong sense of control in my life, regardless of what anyone else thinks or does. I am the architect of my own life.
In the midst of it all, I have found comfort and strength in a simple truth about circumstances.
In short, I have determined within myself to stop re-acting to situations. Instead, I mentally take a step back, look at what just hit the fan, then carefully move forward in a manner that redirects or even resolves what just occurred.“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” ~Brian Tracy
"Oh! You're talking about being pro-active."
Call it what you may, it's still doing whatever works to keep my steps steady and out of the muddy clay of defeat. I am mastering change.
I am what I am...and changing! So...whose fault is it, anyway!!? All mine :~)